One of the most terrifying thoughts for a parent living with a serious illness is: “Will I lose my kids?” Your family law attorney will want to immediately offer you this truth: a medical diagnosis does not automatically disqualify you from having custody in Alabama. Courts look at the full picture of what’s best for the child. Your illness may be a factor, but it does not define your worth as a parent.
Understanding Alabama’s Custody Standard
Alabama courts make custody decisions based on the best interest of the child. Even in non-contested divorces the agreement must pass this test too. The factors judges consider when determining the best interest of the child include:
- The emotional, educational, and physical needs of the child
- Each parent’s ability to meet those needs
- The child’s relationship with each parent
- Stability of each home environment
A major illness is only one of many factors, and it is rarely the deciding one on its own.
What the Court Will Consider About Your Health
1️⃣ Medical Stability
Judges will want to know:
- Is your illness being actively managed?
- Are you following your treatment plan?
- Will your condition affect your ability to provide daily care for your child?
2️⃣ Support Systems
Having a solid support network (family, friends, professionals) can reassure the court that your child will be well cared for even on difficult days.
3️⃣ Parenting History
The court will look at your long-term role in your child’s life. A consistent, loving parenting track record carries significant weight.
4️⃣ The Other Parent’s Position
If your co-parent tries to use your illness against you unfairly, be prepared with documentation from doctors, therapists, and others who can speak to your capabilities as a parent.
Tips to Strengthen Your Custody Case While Managing an Illness
- Keep thorough medical records showing treatment compliance
- Document your parenting involvement: school activities, doctor visits, extracurriculars
- Maintain open communication with your co-parent (where safe) to avoid unnecessary conflict
- Consider working with a parenting coordinator or family therapist to show your commitment to co-parenting well
Your Advocates Through It All
Family law attorneys know this is a terrifying, emotional time. Your family law team will help you:
- Present a full, accurate picture of your parenting abilities
- Push back firmly if your illness is being unfairly weaponized against you
- Develop parenting plans that fit your health needs and your child’s best interests
